Suggest Remedy For Tight Hymen While Having Sex For The First Time

Hi me and my bf tried to have sex last night it was my first time but he s had other sexual relationships I m 22 and he s 49. When he was on top trying to insert his penis inside my vagina he was unable to penetrate my hymen. I m worried because I have been able to tear part of my hymen through masturbate on and toys etc which has now increased the hole enough for him to be able to insert his finger. I just don t understand how I have managed to stretch my hymen myself but he was still unable to fully insert or break my hymen. I know he was nervous about it because of me being a virgin etc but I don t want to not be able to have sex with the person I love because of something wrong with me. Thank you for any help you can give me