Dear Welcome to HCM We understand your concerns I went through your details. Menopause do play a role in your anxiety problem. More over anxiety and negative thinking about the reality called menopause creates more anxiety problems. You should be able to take the menopause as reality and understand and accept it well, and adjust with it. Everyone attains that state that is rule of nature. You as an individual cannot do anything except gracefully accept it. The best method is to avoid obsession. that can be achieved by hobbies, social work, exercise, games etc. You may consult a psychologist for counseling. If you require more of my help in this aspect, please use this URL. http://goo.gl/aYW2pR. Make sure that you include every minute details possible. Hope this answers your query. Available for further clarifications. Good luck.