You are suffering from erectile dysfunction. The most common cause of ED is stress. I recommend you reduce the stress in your sex life by not attaching so much concern about her getting pregnant. That amount of pressure will cause anxiety and the ED. If you still can t get good erections with stress reduction then I would recommend using one of the ED medications like Viagra or Cialis. Once you use them your confidence and the stress of performing may improve and you can have regular sex again without enhancement. In summary 1. reduce stress 2. try Viagra or Cialis I hope this answers your question. Please contact HCM again with your health care concerns and questions