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Dear Sir, I m under great depression & due to me my family & other people are also depressed.I am a 29 yrs old guy married since 4 yrs having one yr old son. Soon after my marriage i got engaged in an affair with a girl.Although it was not serious at beginning but with time we came close and our relation become more and more deep.Now today the senario is that i just dont like to be with anyone else instead of her.My wife loves me a lot lot & cries due to change seen in me.The girl i m in love with wanna stay with me for rest of her life as she also loves me a lot.my mom also keeps crying sometimes as she also feels taht i had changed.i fell like running from home with her or i m really not able to take any decision.
I went through your details. I can understand. You are in love with another woman even though you are married and your wife is loving you much. Here you are in a conflict. We call it acceptance - avoidance conflict. You should take a decision and the decision should be right. If you don't take a decision now, you will be under this conflict and it will ruin your life. If you take right decision, your problem will be settled once for all.
In my opinion, the right decision will be to leave the other girl and live with your legally wedded and loving wife. Let the other girl find another loving husband. That is the most amicable solution. If you go and live with the other girl, the whole of your family and that girls family will be thrown apart. Why should you do that for your selfishness? Consult a psychologist for counseling sessions. Take care.
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Dear Welcome to HCM We understand your concerns I went through your details. I can understand. You are in love with another woman even though you are married and your wife is loving you much. Here you are in a conflict. We call it acceptance - avoidance conflict. You should take a decision and the decision should be right. If you don t take a decision now, you will be under this conflict and it will ruin your life. If you take right decision, your problem will be settled once for all. In my opinion, the right decision will be to leave the other girl and live with your legally wedded and loving wife. Let the other girl find another loving husband. That is the most amicable solution. If you go and live with the other girl, the whole of your family and that girls family will be thrown apart. Why should you do that for your selfishness? Consult a psychologist for counseling sessions. Take care. If you require more of my help in this aspect, please use this URL. http://goo.gl/aYW2pR. Make sure that you include every minute details possible. Hope this answers your query. Available for further clarifications. Good luck.