Trying to use tampons always resulted in failure, but I thought this was me just being too tense. However, I m now a in relationship and having sex has proven difficult and slightly painful. I m not entirely sure what a normal hymen should look like, however, I do know mine isn t normal. From what I can see, mine has three holes, one slightly larger than the others. Will this just break like a normal hymen through penetration or is it likely that what I am describing is a septate hymen and I will need to see a doctor to have this problem removed?