Suggest Treatment For Persistent Back Pain

Hello doctor, the top of my femur bones(where they insert into the hip joint) stick out really wide. I find it very uncomfortable when I sleep. They begin to ache no matter how soft the mattress. Due to the angle they stick out at, it forces my hips to tilt when I m lying on my side, which causes a lot of back pain. I do sleep with a pillow between my knees but it doesn t change the tilt that is caused by the wide greater trochanter bones, as they sit lower than the hip. Is there any way to have these bones shaved down? I would imagine it s a very rare surgery, but it would be life changing to me. My cousin also suffers from this and complains bitterly.