Hello,
Thank you for your query.
The first step in treating such behavior is recognizing it. Once you acknowledge that, the treatment is simple but needs persistent and consistent and conscious changes to your emotions and how your mind responds to different situations.
I recommend :
- a physician consult to make sure your overall health is fine (sometimes silent disease like
diabetes,
heart disease, improper sleep,
depression or
stress can lead to
fatigue and irritability with poor control of emotions.)
If that is all fine,
-maintain a diary, noting down all your emotions and responses to situations that trigger these outbursts.
-try to recognize the trigger situations before it triggers the outbursts and Train your mind to calm down. Use breathing techniques or focussed good memories to take your mind of the expected response.
-try venting out in front of a mirror. Observing yourself as you rage can be a strong incentive to control it.
-keep a safe object like a sponge ball to grip in your hands while you try to control. Suppressed emotions (even as a child or young adult can lead to outbursts).
-get away from the scenario or person that causes you to have such outbursts.
-repeatedly tell yourself that only you are in control or can control your emotions. No one else can make you feel of you don't want to or let them.
It is normal for everyone to go through periods of lack of control or inflated emotions that we can't control.
Please try these suggestions and be persevering.
It will take time.
In the meantime, look for a self help group (understanding and communication with people in similar situations can help assess you thoughts and actions).
A behavioral therapist can help if none of the above do. Certain childhood events (abuse, lack of proper
parenting, for instance) can pave it's ways into adult behavioral problems.
Recognize these, if present and it will help you understand the situation better.
Hope I've helped.
Wish you good health