Thank you for reading this, even writing this down helps me. I have a problem in my family, and it's been going on for years now, my parents are constantly figthing, and my mother is always pretending that she is dying from stress (she have mild heart problems) and we, her children, have to go around her and give her all the care and she enjoys it, I figured out she is narcistic few months ago, I lived in a lie that it is my dad's fault every single time, and now I feel sorry for not being there for him when he obviously needed me, recently she started breaking things around house, locking her self up and screaming, and things are even worse because we have a 2 y.o in a house and she doesnt care for her either, when she calms down she goes around the house looking like a dead person, and looks at dad with sad dissapointed look on her face, while she curse me for being on his side just because I figured she is narcistic and I dont run around her like before anymore, and also someone has to take care for my lil sister, dad usually needs to leave a house because she cant stand seeing him, sorry for my bad english, im from europe, english is not my native language. Today she screamed for 20 minutes because he said to her ''fuck you'' and then my sister took care of her, they went into the room and she is normal again, expect she cant stand to see dad, or me, because apparently I dont care for her. I wanted to know if my suspicion of her being narcistic is real, and what to do because no way she is gonna go get help... Im getting married in 2 months and because of this situation I dont feel comfortable leaving the house since all of this going on for years have made me a control freak.