my daughter in law came from a dysfunctional and abusive family life. my son is the custodial parent of my grand daughter 10, grandson 7, to whom I raised with good values and respect for others. since my son remarried and had 2 more children with his second wife. both boys 11 months apart. they do have a nanny for the younger boys. but we get the boys whenever we can. my daughter in law has made it very clear she wants no parenting advice from me. Her way, or out of their lives. My two older children have started talking very disrespectful to adults repeating rude statements they hear my daughter in law say in conversations to other people when they are around, and talking to my grand daughter as an older person rather than a 10 year old. My granddaughter punched a boy on the bus last year giving him s bloody nose because he was being mean to her, she told be she felt bad and cried about it. my son and daughter in law were fine with it, they want her to stick up for herself. looking in from the outside she is repeating the abusive behaviors she grew up with. yelling at the kids, using bad language, kicking in a door and breaking things., telling people the 2 year old acts like an asshole. what kind of person thinks that is ok? its wrong and embarrassing. what can i do so she breaks the cycle of her past, and doesn t harm my grandchildren and the great and wonder people they can be with respect and kindness towards others. even the ones that my not be so nice to her. I do not want them to become bullies. My son and daughter in law are too busy with themselves to realize anything is wrong. They are always right!!!