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What Causes Difficulty In Penetration During The First Intercourse?
Hi, i recently got married and me and my wife are having sex problems. We still have not had intercourse. She is still a Virgin. I don't know what the problem is. My penius size is about 4 1/2 - 5 inches. I regularly get erection but when i am about to insert my penius into her vagina it sometimes seems to go down but other times it does'nt. My wife went doctors and she has a normal vagina, so its not a hymen issue. We both dont know much about sex. Can i ask, is the penius meant to be really really hard to break hymen and what position is best to have intercouse first time. I really appreciate any help. Thanks
Mon, 27 Oct 2014
Hello,
Welcome to HCM,
I have gone through your history and understand your concern, your wife has probably extreme fear of pain so when you try to get in, the opening of vagina and surrounding area goes in to spasm, which you feel as a wall. This is very common.
1.Try to relax your wife and be with her in naked position without attempt to penetrate. Wait till she starts enjoying your touching and rubbing but don't touch genital areas.
2.Then add breast and pubic area to the range of touching and massaging .
3.Try insert single finger , may be with the help of KY Jelly, and move it in and out.
4.Slowly make it two and when it is easy, try and insert penis.
Thank you.
Welcome to HCM,
I have gone through your history and understand your concern, your wife has probably extreme fear of pain so when you try to get in, the opening of vagina and surrounding area goes in to spasm, which you feel as a wall. This is very common.
1.Try to relax your wife and be with her in naked position without attempt to penetrate. Wait till she starts enjoying your touching and rubbing but don't touch genital areas.
2.Then add breast and pubic area to the range of touching and massaging .
3.Try insert single finger , may be with the help of KY Jelly, and move it in and out.
4.Slowly make it two and when it is easy, try and insert penis.
Thank you.
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