Hi, Thanks for posting in HCM. I understand your concern and what you are refering about is called premature ejaculation . The problem what you are facing is more of psychological than physical. About 70 to 80% of people facing similar problem have been benefited by behavioral therapy . You need to practice pause and squeeze technique. Over a period of few months, you should not only get good erections, but also make you to hold longer than before. In case you don t get good improvement with this technique, you can take medications for premature ejaculation like Selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) namely Paroxetine, Sertraline or Fluoxetine along with practice of this technique. Try and develop more confidence within yourself and things will go on well. Wish you all the best.