Hi! I saw on Dr. Phil show that you are offering free advice for month of February. My ex-husband and I am desperate to get helpful advice concerning my 2 grown sons who are refusing to go out and find jobs. The oldest is 24 and the youngest just turned 22. They stay up all night while their dad sleeps and play video games all day while he is at work. I was a stay- at- home mom until we divorced when they were only 16 and 18. They moved out and moved into another home. They smoke pot and the young one messes around with opiates. 3 years ago I moved an hour away but have several times tried to get them to cooperate with me to help them look for work only to have them shut me out and refuse to look. They get by on shoveling snow, mowing yards, birthday and Christmas money for there drugs and cigerettes. The youngest is involved in chouffering his carless friends around in exchange for drugs. My ex is ready to evict them! We don t have anybody else who has any interest in them or helping them. They don t want to live with me and they don t want to join the military. I wish they still had a draft so I could get these young men to man up! I am afraid that the 22 year old is going to end up in jail or worse. They need counceling but won t go when my ex arranges it for them! Help!!!