My boyfriend of 15 months has an obsession with porn (but he recently got rid of the channel) but he can't help looking at women's bums and breasts. The scary thing is that he constantly denies it; even when caught red-handed. It has put a huge wedge in our relationship. He is 63; I am 51. I am a fitness buff (really good shape); he is very overweight and I'm sure has self-esteem issues. Plus he has 2 divorces behind him. I'm not sure what to do about this. The women he looks at doesn't have to be beauties. I've seen him look at young girls bums and older women as well. It seems like he don't see women for what they are; he has to scan them over. I really find his stealing glances a real insult and disrespect to me. He assures me he loves me and wouldn't do anything to hurt me; yet we argue over this all the time. I think I'm losing my mind. He argues constantly that I'm seeing things. I'm beginning to believe it; except I see it all the time and he tries to be sneaky about it. What can I do to get over this?