hello doctor , i am a 31 year old women perusing Phd. and married since 1 year but not able to adjust with the mentality of my husband. He was working in abroad after marriage he left the job and started own business in native. we meet twice in a month for 2 to 3 days. after marriage i came to know that he has the habit of consuming alcohol and tobacco. Even after warning him to leave all that he didn't listen to me. which upsets me a lot and feels stressed. He thinks he is always 100% right and i am always wrong. as i am highly educated and he has completed only graduation he always thinks i am under estimating him. As i was studied and brought up in a strict and disciplined and clean environment i am finding extremely difficult with him and his family who wont even bother about maintaining cleanliness and discipline at home, for example they wont even wash their hands after using washrooms. husband and his family want a child from me but till now husband couldn't perform sex the way it should be so that i can become pregnant and he thinks he did perform rightly and thinks i am taking some tablets so im still not pregnant. please help me how i can solve my problem.