How To Deal With An Identity Crisis?

Posted on Tue, 3 Jan 2017

Question: I am confused about my own identity.I am a male who feels like a female.

Answered by Dr. Dr. Ashok Kumar Choudhary (38 minutes later)

Brief Answer:
please post more details

Detailed Answer:
Dear xxxxxxxxxx,
Thanks for using Healthcaremagic.com.

I read your query and understand your concerns.

I request you to post following details.

Duration of problem?
How this started?
What are the problems you encounter as a male
What makes you fell as female
What about sexual orientation
What about clothing

I LOOK FORWARD YO GET MORE DETAILS.
THANKS AND REGARDS

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar

Follow up: Dr. Dr. Ashok Kumar Choudhary (1 hour later)

This started since age of 16 when I got inclined to Cross-dressing. I feel sensation only at places where girls feels. I wear woman underwear. I prefer touching myself and not allowing others to touch me.
I crave to dress up.

Answered by Dr. Dr. Ashok Kumar Choudhary (1 hour later)

Brief Answer:
This is indicative of gender dysphoria

Detailed Answer:
Dear xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx,
Thanks for reverting back to me.

I have gone through the additional details and primarily it appears that you are having gender dysphoria otherwise known as gender identity disorder.

There are two options.

First if you want to be part of the boys it can be treated with psychotherapy. I must acknowledge that the process is long but with consistent efforts a signoificant improvement can be made.

The second option is gender surgery. The option is applicable if you are comfortable with female identity and want to be part of female group. The survey gives you confidence and adjustment with your new identity. Psychotherapy is also a option for inclusion in female category.

I hope this helps you.
If you have more questions feel free to write back to me.
Thanks and regards.

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar

Follow up: Dr. Dr. Ashok Kumar Choudhary (13 hours later)

What are the negative effects if I continue dressing up like I do? What would happen if I try to suppress or resist the temptation I feel when I desire to dress up? Would physical relation with a male help me?

Answered by Dr. Dr. Ashok Kumar Choudhary (4 hours later)

Brief Answer:
Most likely

Detailed Answer:
Dear xxxxxxxxxxxx,
Thanks for reverting back to me.

Regarding the complications you may encounter legal charges from girls stating that you are too clingy or likewise. In addition you will not be able to have sexual relationship with opposite sex although sexual relationship with same sex can be established and most probably you will be able to enjoy. In addition you may find it difficult to engage in social relationship in current manner as with advancement of age you will probably need more support.

Suppressing these thoughts with professional support may cause anxiety and ultimately depression, poor confidence, amotivation among others. Suppression is never a great idea although society may demoralise you to make suppression of these thoughts.

I hope this helps you further.
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Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar