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Suggest Treatment For Erectile Dysfunction

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Posted on Fri, 10 Oct 2014
Question: hi i am 26 and married last month. i cant penetrate. my penis getting soft or sliding outside the vagina area.
sometimes it is not in erect position for longer.please help me everyday we are trying but not succeed
and it make our confident weak. can i use any tablet like viagra or need to consult doctor
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Answered by Dr. Dr. Chintan Solanki (22 minutes later)
Brief Answer:
See below for detail answer

Detailed Answer:
Hello Young man,

I can understand your feelings and situation.Newly married couple faces this type of problems frequently.

I just want to know from you," Were you able to masturbate before marriage successfully?,Did you have any past experience of sex?, What is your education qualification?,Is there erection of penis when you wake up in the morning?, Do you have any substance use like tobacco,smoking or alcohol, if yes frequency and duration?" These information will help to judge and solve your problem better.

Considering your age your erectile dysfunction (ED) mostly will be psychological not physiological.In this medicine like viagra can help but you should not take it at present as if with viagra you can do means you can do yourself also without medicines.

In many males specially when newly married 'Performance Anxiety' is common.During sex, he would not enjoy sex but rather more concentrate on that he would be able to enter in vagina or not. This leads to diversion of sexual impulse from penis to thinking of penetration which makes the penis loose.

So now onward follow below measures.
Start sex with full clothes of both partner. More time in foreplay(at least 15 minutes). You gradually start removing each others' clothes one by one but do not remove your brief. Continue foreplay like doing kissing, touching,smacking on different part of body of each other where you feel excited.During this foreplay don't think or go hasty for entering in vagina. When your wife notice that your penis erected has erected well, she has to just remove your brief and with her hand she has to guide your penis to vagina.You carry on with your romantic feelings while she does this, do not think or note that penetration is successful. If you carry on this way,I think you will be able to succeed for sure.

All the best,

I will be happy to help further,
regards,
Dr.Chintan Solanki.
Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Ashwin Bhandari
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Follow up: Dr. Dr. Chintan Solanki (15 hours later)
early morning my penis erect better than night and i never use tobacco or alcohol . i did masturbation many times(is that problem arrives due to masturbate?). i ll be moving abroad after 10 days then i ll be back after 6 months it makes me mentally weak i cant get rid off feel from it.

i always think days are gone only few left needs to succeed
doctor
Answered by Dr. Dr. Chintan Solanki (14 minutes later)
Brief Answer:
You do not have any physical problem

Detailed Answer:
Hello,

Thanks for follow up.
Early morning erection suggests your physiological system is absolutely normal.
You were able to masturbate means you can do sex normally also.
No, masturbation doesn't cause any problem to sexual activity at all, so no need to worry about that.

DO not think about penetration.Just try to enjoy sex and you will succeed.
Follow measures what I have described, if you do not succeed ,late me know.

Your problem is totally psychological and you can be successful, if you can put your performance anxiety apart.

All the best.
Feel free to ask if still any query.

Regards,
Dr.Chintan Solanki.
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Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Bhagyalaxmi Nalaparaju
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Suggest Treatment For Erectile Dysfunction

Brief Answer: See below for detail answer Detailed Answer: Hello Young man, I can understand your feelings and situation.Newly married couple faces this type of problems frequently. I just want to know from you," Were you able to masturbate before marriage successfully?,Did you have any past experience of sex?, What is your education qualification?,Is there erection of penis when you wake up in the morning?, Do you have any substance use like tobacco,smoking or alcohol, if yes frequency and duration?" These information will help to judge and solve your problem better. Considering your age your erectile dysfunction (ED) mostly will be psychological not physiological.In this medicine like viagra can help but you should not take it at present as if with viagra you can do means you can do yourself also without medicines. In many males specially when newly married 'Performance Anxiety' is common.During sex, he would not enjoy sex but rather more concentrate on that he would be able to enter in vagina or not. This leads to diversion of sexual impulse from penis to thinking of penetration which makes the penis loose. So now onward follow below measures. Start sex with full clothes of both partner. More time in foreplay(at least 15 minutes). You gradually start removing each others' clothes one by one but do not remove your brief. Continue foreplay like doing kissing, touching,smacking on different part of body of each other where you feel excited.During this foreplay don't think or go hasty for entering in vagina. When your wife notice that your penis erected has erected well, she has to just remove your brief and with her hand she has to guide your penis to vagina.You carry on with your romantic feelings while she does this, do not think or note that penetration is successful. If you carry on this way,I think you will be able to succeed for sure. All the best, I will be happy to help further, regards, Dr.Chintan Solanki.