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Question: My age is 34 & my partners age is 29. During sex, initially my erection will be fine but after inserting into vagina, within few minutes (typically 2-3min) the erection strength decreases due to which both me and my partner do not get sufficient pleasure. Due to this I will have to forcibly complete ejaculation & then I will have to satisfy my partner by stimulating clitoris with finger and help her reach climax. Although we are not facing much friction due to this, but we are losing interest in sex. This is happening quite frequently in recent times. What can I do to maintain strong erection for long period of time to enjoy enhanced pleasure and to sustain our interest?
Brief Answer:
Prolonged foreplay and arousal is the key
Detailed Answer:
Thanks for asking on HealthcareMagic.
I have gone carefully through your query and understand the issue you are facing. Firstly you need to indulge in prolonged foreplay so that you can gradually build upon the excitement and arousal. Proper psychological involvement in important in such a case. Let me tell you that sex is not restricted to the penetrative action alone. The associate activities like foreplay are essential in order to maintain arousal. Stress and expectation play an important role in this regards. You need to be rational and have realistic expectations from your partner. I assume that your partner is not a 'professional' and so you should not expect the same output from her as you see in the items that you use for self stimulation and masturbation. Psychological invovlement is very important. You also need to learn to go at a steady pace and go steady whenever you feel that you are nearing climax. With gradual practice you would be able to perform much better and I am certain ejaculation would not be a problem.
If the problem persists you can try medication like sildenafil (penegra) but under guidance of your doctor.
Let me know if I could help further.
Regards
Prolonged foreplay and arousal is the key
Detailed Answer:
Thanks for asking on HealthcareMagic.
I have gone carefully through your query and understand the issue you are facing. Firstly you need to indulge in prolonged foreplay so that you can gradually build upon the excitement and arousal. Proper psychological involvement in important in such a case. Let me tell you that sex is not restricted to the penetrative action alone. The associate activities like foreplay are essential in order to maintain arousal. Stress and expectation play an important role in this regards. You need to be rational and have realistic expectations from your partner. I assume that your partner is not a 'professional' and so you should not expect the same output from her as you see in the items that you use for self stimulation and masturbation. Psychological invovlement is very important. You also need to learn to go at a steady pace and go steady whenever you feel that you are nearing climax. With gradual practice you would be able to perform much better and I am certain ejaculation would not be a problem.
If the problem persists you can try medication like sildenafil (penegra) but under guidance of your doctor.
Let me know if I could help further.
Regards
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
Dear Doctor,
Thank you for your kind reply. I want to know if I am suffering from any kind of erectile dysfunction because my partner complains that she is not getting pleasure after a few minutes (even though she has not reached climax). Although sometimes both of us could reach climax, however most of the times she feels that erection strength is not sufficient as she could not feel the pleasure throughout. This is the case even after engaging in proper foreplay. So is it the case of erectile dysfunction or my partner not getting sufficiently aroused? In any case, do you suggest if any medication is really required or that its only psychological feeling which can be improved by proper knowledge (If psychological, please suggest some good reading or any necessary qualities we need to imbibe for happier sex).
Thank you for your kind reply. I want to know if I am suffering from any kind of erectile dysfunction because my partner complains that she is not getting pleasure after a few minutes (even though she has not reached climax). Although sometimes both of us could reach climax, however most of the times she feels that erection strength is not sufficient as she could not feel the pleasure throughout. This is the case even after engaging in proper foreplay. So is it the case of erectile dysfunction or my partner not getting sufficiently aroused? In any case, do you suggest if any medication is really required or that its only psychological feeling which can be improved by proper knowledge (If psychological, please suggest some good reading or any necessary qualities we need to imbibe for happier sex).
Brief Answer:
Erectile dysfunction
Detailed Answer:
The issue indeed is erectile dysfunction. It is you who is not adequately aroused. Unless you are properly aroused and hard, your partner cannot get aroused and she is not the one to be blamed. Psychological involvement is a way out. Medication is another way out but that does not exclude the requirement of the psychological part. You can try medication like sildenafil but it should be tried only under the guidance of your treating physician.
Regards
Erectile dysfunction
Detailed Answer:
The issue indeed is erectile dysfunction. It is you who is not adequately aroused. Unless you are properly aroused and hard, your partner cannot get aroused and she is not the one to be blamed. Psychological involvement is a way out. Medication is another way out but that does not exclude the requirement of the psychological part. You can try medication like sildenafil but it should be tried only under the guidance of your treating physician.
Regards
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Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
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