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Suggest Treatment For Stress And Suicidal Thoughts

Posted on Thu, 1 Oct 2015

Question: Dr Seikhoo Bishnoi. I feel suicidal. My son won't even talk to me and my daughter and I had a bad fight. I no longer have any interest in anything..today for the first time since I got home i wanted to end it all. I am in physical pain and all my best clothes were thrown away. My car was smashed up two months ago and if I had gone to Israel it wouldn't have mattered but that doesn't look like it will happen now. I am suicidal and my daughter will be gone until 3PM. Nothing in my life has turned out and it could be months before I can find a place to live and if "i do I probably won't be able to go to Israel. So I might as well die here by my own hand. Its better than living here. I don't even want to try to get a refund on my tickets. I have some flashbacks and feel so hopeless. The only one I could talk to was my son and tonight he doesn't want to talk to me. I was supposed to go to Temple tomorrow and now don't want to go.I have nothing to wear and don't want to try to explain whyI didn't go to Israel. I just want to die. This time I will take a whole bottle of tylenol and XXXXXXX won't be here to stop me.

Answered by Dr. Seikhoo Bishnoi (15 minutes later)

Brief Answer:
Try to sort out all the issues.

Detailed Answer:
Hello again

Fights do occur in families, and please don't pay much attention to these fights. You fought with your daughter and she is not your enemy. Try to sort out the fight. If XXXXXXX has any problem with you then try to find out the problem. Don't feel bad about your self. Just avoid bad thoughts and don't feel suicidal. You have just recovered from a bad trauma and in such case you might have vulnerability to minor fights but avoid all these. Please remain relaxed. Sit with XXXXXXX and your daughter and try to sort out all the issues.

Thanks.

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Yogesh D

Follow up: Dr. Seikhoo Bishnoi (24 minutes later)

I am really alone now. I miss XXXXXXX so much and just want to take pills. He said that he would leave if I ever do that again but he isn't here anymore and i miss him so much. I feel so hopeless because I am at the mercy of my daughter. I have lost all of my XXXXXXX living at a place which belongs to someone else. I am not going to Israel and won't be seeing XXXXXXX again..I sit in a bedroom day after day mostly alone..my son thinks I am a pest...I don't want to live..I have nothing to live for not anymore.

Answered by Dr. Seikhoo Bishnoi (6 minutes later)

Brief Answer:
Please try to avoid fighting with your daughter

Detailed Answer:
Hello again

Try to understand, he doesn't think that you are a pest. He doesn't want you to land in hospital again due to overdoses of pills. He is concerned about your health. He cares about you. Please don't think of taking pills again as this would make the condition more and more serious. Please try to understand. So just relax yourself and don't think bad. He would talk to you in some time. Please try to avoid fighting with your daughter again as this will increase the restlessness of your mind only.

Thanks.

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Yogesh D

Follow up: Dr. Seikhoo Bishnoi (19 minutes later)

I feel so sad and alone without my son. I know he will talk to me again but I miss being with him. We always prayed together and now I feel so alone much more alone than I was before. I am not sure how long I can hold out on taking the pills. I don't do anything but lie in bed. Oh sure, today I went to town to pick up what I thought were my good clothes but found that they were all thrown out. I still miss XXXXXXX but don't think that I will ever see him again..what is there to live for? I don't like this bedroom at all...I have to feel safe and comfortable in a room or I cannot sleep in it..and I don't feel good in this room..I am taking melatonin to try to sleep but I took it almost two hours ago and cannot sleep. I have been having nightmares and keep seeing myself in the hospital where they intubated me, flashbacks. The trauma was similar to what happened to me as a child, I think. I just want to run away but I can't.

Answered by Dr. Seikhoo Bishnoi (9 minutes later)

Brief Answer:
Avoid taking pills at any cost

Detailed Answer:
Hello again
XXXXXXX will talk to you, and no worries about that. He might be angry but he will come back no need to take undue stress for that. Please try to avoid thinking about XXXXXXX this will increase the stress only and will make your health bad. So try to pass the time and in sometime everything will become alright. Please try to understand, you have passed worst phase of life and now you life will become smooth. Just try to remain relaxed. Avoid taking overdoses of pills at any cost.

Thanks.

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Yogesh D

Follow up: Dr. Seikhoo Bishnoi (28 minutes later)

I don't know. I just took six pills..I am so stressed out and lonely living here. i want to live in Israel but am not sure that that will happen now..I am overwhelmed with the thought of living like this. I tried to not fight with my daughter but she is a very angry person and when I asked her to leave me alone and stop talking to me as I was trying to deal with significant losses, I had had enough..all week she was criticizing me continually and I felt bad enough as it was. I was off remeron for a week as I guess I had taken all the pills I had a few weeks ago and insurance woudn't pay for any more. So I just started taking them again on Wednesday. I took melatonin tonight too and am not tired yet even though it was hours ago I took it.

Answered by Dr. Seikhoo Bishnoi (4 minutes later)

Brief Answer:
Please try to avoid taking overdoses of medicines.

Detailed Answer:
Hello again

Melatonin is a pill that help to corrected altered sleep rhythm, it is not a conventional sleeping pill. Taking heavy doses will only cause harm and will not help in sleep. This will increase restlessness only. So please try to understand this and avoid using the drug in overdoses. You can use Remern for sleep but overdose of this drug will also cause serotonin syndrome so should be avoided totally. Please try to pass this time, as I have mentioned earlier also, you have passed the worst phase of time. Your daughter will realise her mistake in some time and she will become normal. Once your health is better and money issues are resolved then you can go to Israel.

Thanks.

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Yogesh D

Follow up: Dr. Seikhoo Bishnoi (11 hours later)

I am not taking heavy doses of melatonin. Not of remeron either. Just took six gaba pentin. I won't be able to get zanax till Wednesday. If I take one pill with one remeron at night, I can sleep better. I am distraught that my best clothes were thrown out $200 worth. I didn't have much but those were my best..I haven't got much left. I woke up today feeling better having slept almost ten hours.I hope I don't have to spend much on a new apartment or for computer service so that I spend all my money that I wanted to get for going to Israel. But today woke up hoping in God to help us to get there. After all, He called us there..

Answered by Dr. Seikhoo Bishnoi (23 minutes later)

Brief Answer:
Gabapentin can help in sleep till you get prescription of Xanax

Detailed Answer:
Hello again

Gabapentin can help in sleeping but try to reduce the intake if possible. Try to save money and just remain relaxed. You have good refreshing sleep and this will reduce the negativity. Please avoid thinking bad and remain relaxed. Wait for your best time.

Thanks.

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar

Follow up: Dr. Seikhoo Bishnoi (10 hours later)

Thanks Dr. B. I slept good last night and it seems to have helped. I went to temple tonight and tomorrow morning we celebrate Rosh Hoshannah at 10AM. They are really kind. One of my FrenchJewish friends told me about a Jewish organization that can help put pressure on the airlines to get me a refund so that I can get more tickets for Israel.
XXXXXXX doesn't want to talk about XXXXXXX anymore but I told the driver who took us to Temple about him and he thought that XXXXXXX in one of his more lucid moments was afraid he might hurt me..I do feel sad about it Dr B as he is all alone here in his psychosis and will probably die alone..I am going to go to Israel if at all possible but feel sad that he is alone here with no one who cares enough to help him..do you think he ever thinks about me at all anymore?

Answered by Dr. Seikhoo Bishnoi (5 hours later)

Brief Answer:
Avoid thinking about XXXXXXX for some time.

Detailed Answer:
Hello again

I have requested earlier also, please don't think about XXXXXXX at least for some time. This will make your health worse only. It is possible that he thinks about you but that is of no use because he is in psychosis and he is not at all acknowledging the time you people spent together. So please try to regain your health, don't think bad about yourself.

Talk to XXXXXXX and avoid talking about XXXXXXX with XXXXXXX Just remain relaxed and keep trying for your trip to Israel.

Thanks. Take care

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar

Follow up: Dr. Seikhoo Bishnoi (4 hours later)

XXXXXXX thinks I have obsessive thought disorder and he was the only one I could talk to about XXXXXXX I am becoming more and mover apathetic towards life and am stressed out about not being able to find a place for us to live.
I am overwhelmed by my life now and in physical pain from the dystonia which seem to have gotten worse the last few days by the fights I have gotten into with my family. I called XXXXXXX a bad name due to my frustration over him shutting me out...nothing is working anymore in my life..I wish it was over and the pain both physical and emotional would stop..now my daughter wants all of us to live together and
I just can't do that as when we move to Israel she will be left with an apartment she cannot afford to be in.Everything in my life now is a mess...

Answered by Dr. Seikhoo Bishnoi (11 minutes later)

Brief Answer:
Please try not to anticipate

Detailed Answer:
Hello again

There are a lot of difficulties but there are solutions also. If XXXXXXX is in bad mood then you can call him. If you called him with bad name then you can apologise for that. He will also realise his mistake in such situation. You are not having obsessive thoughts, due to sudden change in events you went in severe stress which lasted for months. But in my opinion things will change and you will regain your health.

Don't anticipate what happen when you will move to Israel. Right now focus on gathering money and try to concentrate on that only. Avoid thinking beyond that. In due course of time every thing will become better.

Thanks

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar

Follow up: Dr. Seikhoo Bishnoi (32 minutes later)

I really don't care about anything anymore XXXXXXX was a bright spot in my life when I knew him and my health issues the physical pain and the rejection he sent my way has made me very apathetic towards life and towards going to Israel. I am not sure I want to go there anymore. It is all too much work and the breathing problems I have now make me not want to do anything at all but I have to find a place to live while I am still here...
I don't understand why XXXXXXX left. I know he is in psychosis but it has made me not care about life anymore. I don't love easily and don't want another relationship. This has been the worst experience of my life and I just don't care anymore about anything not even Israel.

Answered by Dr. Seikhoo Bishnoi (6 minutes later)

Brief Answer:
Try to feel new things in life

Detailed Answer:
Hello again

You are accepting that he has psychosis and this psychosis cause sudden change in his behaviour. You had no control over his mood change and any events at that time. He was a nice guy but currently he is in psychosis and he could have even harmed self or even you in psychosis. So try to find new interests. Don't feel apathetic because this will increase the depress only. Israel trip should bring happiness back in your life.

Thanks.

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Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar