Question: Hi, I'm 66 years old and at present my husband and I have not had any sexual relations in almost a year because of me. We just celebrated our 46th anniversary today, November 6th. We were always very very active with always finding new ways or places to have sex. Since I went thru the change and had my first stroke at the age of 49 my desire to have any sexual contact has really gone down so much it seems as though it died. It seems I always go thru so much pain in the vaginal area. Doctors have told me you have to keep it lubed and keep doing it to make it work. I love my husband and he is very very supportive of how I feel. He sees the pain I go thru but never pushes me. Yet I've got to the point I get scared when he mentions it knowing pain will be the only experience. What can I do to get my labido working and stop the pain