Question: This question is for my wife. She has a very bad lisetning problem. I have to repeat everything at least 3 times for her to hear properly. There is nothing wrong with her ear. She does hear things well. I am pretty sure it is a concentration problem. She is not able to concentrate on what someone is saying. For example, if I say something when not looking at her, she will never understand what I am saying. However, if I am looking at her and say the same thing at the same volume, she is able to understand it instantaneously. Is this there any solution to this problem?

Hello Dr. XXXXXXX XXXXXXX Thanks for the detailed answer. The reason I said contradictory statements was that, she had got her ears checked at an ENT's place and he did not find any issues with them. He said clearly, the problem is in the mind. She has no problems in hearing when talking on the phone or 1to1 situations that you have mentioned. However, problems come when say she is in the kitchen and I say something from the drawing room. I have to repeat the sentence at least 3 times. Also, by that time she has almost entered the drawing room. You may be right about this being a case where she is feigning hearing loss to get what she wants. How do I confirm this? What are the exact symptoms of a person who is feigning a fake hearing loss? Coming to your other questions: Just to give you some background, I am an engineer working in a MNC and my wife is a homoeopath. She works at a clinic where she has to go everyday in the evening 5-8:30. She was in Ahmedabad before marriage and moved here after that. We have been married for the last 9 months now. We do enjoy each other's company and she does make me feel that she is very happy with me. (eg: she keeps telling me that I am a very nice person and she is happy/lucky to have me in her life, her parents keep praising about me to her etc.. ). These things have been going on from Day 1 of our relationship. Sexual problems: We have not been able to have a successful intercourse so far due to multiple reasons. Initially I had erection issues due to an over sensitive glans (which was a result of slightly tight foreskin). I worked on that and now my foreskin is loose and the glans sensitivity has reduced and I am able to maintain erection for a longer period now. I think we should be able to have successful intercourse in the next few weeks. Other reasons being tiredness after the days work some stress factors which I describe below. My parents have been staying with us for 7/9 months so far. During that period she has had some issues with them. 1. She likes to talk to her parents on phone everyday for ~30 mins or so. My parents dont like that and that resulted in some clashes. She claims that my parents keep track of her every movement when I am not at home and that makes her feel like a prisoner. I think it might be true partially but she is definitely exaggerating when complaining about my parents. 2. My mom does not like things being wasted in the kitchen (like too much water/detergent for washing utensils) and unfortunately, my wife has a tendency to use excess of everything. So my mom would have told her a few times to reduce wastage. She didnt take it well and that resulted in some clashes. She has a habit of loosing her temper quickly and speak whatever comes to her mind. This has led to an overall increase in stress. 3. My wife has a habit of eating very spicy and hot food while my mom doesnt cook that spicy. Usually dinner is cooked by my mom since wife goes to work. Almost everyday she complains about the blandness of dinner and how she ate it by forcing herself (complaints are in private to me). Anyway all the above three things have also been the source of stress to me (since i dont have anyone to complain to :-)). She claims that she is highly stressed by all this and that stress is affecting her as a person. In general, she has very bad concentration (which again might be feigned) and she blames everything to stress. She claims she was not like this (short tempered) before marriage but I dont think that is true. Another main reason why she claims is stressed is that we havent been able to have intercourse. She keeps saying she wants a baby (as she is 29) as soon as possible. I am not that keen on a baby so soon after marriage but have given in to her daily coaxing. I have tried to give as much info as I could. Please let me know if you need anything more in specific.