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SINCE 4 MONTHS YOU ARE FEELING DRY AND PAINFUL INTERCOURSE. Incomplete rupture of hymen unlikely and blood not necessarily to be seen after hymen rupture.
Your problem may be due to vaginismus or may be due to some vaginal inflammation.
Xylocaine gel will take away the pleasure of your sex relationship. Instead you can use some lubricating gels or jelly like 'LUBIC'.

You consult your Gynecologist she will examine and tell the exact problem and the way to solve vaginismus or vaginal inflammation.

Get well soon and enjoy your marital life.
Dr SM

Hi there. I read your problem with interest. As you are from Blore, it may be useful to come across to one of us together as a couple to discuss these issues. More often than not, there is some psychological baggage that causes this vaginismus or dyspareunia. I trust you have had a gynecological examination done in the recent past. If not, that would be the first order of day! Again, rupture of the hymen does not always have to be associated with a lot of blood gushing out..it may be a few spots that have been missed...again merits a gynecology consult. Any K-Y jelly or vaginal lubricant available in the market over the counter at the local pharmacy would suffice. Durex has some interesting products with different flavours & sensory applications that are smooth & of good quality. I am not a great fan of loosely applying xylocaine 2% gel as one could develop vaginal irritation & thereby cause it to be more dry in a way. Since you are newly married & you have been a virgin by all accounts prior to marriage, relaxation & sex techniques/positions would help. Again, one has to ascertain if the husband has any foreskin issues or any ailments causing phimosis & thereby sex is not smooth or perhaps look at more fore-play (if that is not happening enough) as this sometimes by itself is enough & dare say it may be the case with you. Should you require more information, feel free to use our premium features or come across in person to visit.
Wish you both a satisfying sex life & may all your baby planning bear fruitition soon! Cheers!
Dr Praveen Rodrigues MD
Dermatologist, Cosmetologist, Venereologist
Vikram Hospital, Bangalore.