hiiii
i admire you for positive outlook
you have described well
but on basis of it ,,we cant say it is depression
depression has constant and persistent low mood
and your husband has mood swings and irritability
it can be atypical depression because he slept more
so before starting any treatment
still more evaluation required to get diagnosis
xanax is not useful in this case
so as per my opinion it is not depression because patients of depression keep always ready to take treatment and get out of its emotional disturbance
they seek treatment
here in this case scenario is different
so
consult psychiatrist and get proper diagnosis'
after than treatment will respond better
thank you
take care