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Top Tips 10 to Revive your Sex Life

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Losing the sex drive can feel very depressing and can cause lots of problems in any relationships. There are some practical tips on reviving sex drive.

 

Good communication

  • It's important to be able to communicate well with your partner. It’s important to sit with the partner talk through your feelings to prevent them feeling rejected or hurt and to gain their support.
  • If you are getting tense or anxious, tell your partner how you are feeling. Tell one another would feel good next.
  • If you both partners say what they would like, what gives pleasure, both become aroused and can bring each other to climax, as long as that's what both of you feel ready for.

 Give time for sex

  • Busy lives and hectic schedules can be difficult to find the time to be intimate with your partner. 

  • To keep a good sex life going on- relationship requires you to give it some space.

  • Even if you don't have sex you can find some time to get close and intimate with your partner, even if that just means cuddling in bed.

  • There can be a particular problem around childbirth, but afternoon is a good time when the baby is asleep, by the evening you're often too tired.

 Feel good about yourself and please yourself

  • Being sexy is less about how do you look and more about how you feel about yourself. 
  • Mind is the most forgotten sex organ and feeling good about yourself this itself will give real boost to your sexual confidence.
  • When it comes to sex it's also important to feel relaxed.
  • Self-pleasuring helps to keep the pubococcygeal muscles (muscles of pubis)


 Set the scene- Healthy atmosphere

  • A good sexual approach made in an appropriate and healthy environment is most likely to succeed.
  • If you want to spice up your sex life then tidy up your room and reduce the clutter that can distract you and focus on other things.
  • Try putting scented or perfumed candles in the room as smell is an important sense when it comes to sexual arousal.
  • Playing away from home once in a while can make you feel pampered and in the mood for play. 
  • In a warm bedroom- soft lights if possible, low music is good for healthy sexual environment.


 Try something new

  • Rather than doing the same old dace btw the sheets, try yourselves something little different and new.
  • Can try new sexual positions or simply change the order of your own routine. More fore play during the sex will stimulate orgasms.
  • Either in a warm bath, using soap or oil, or in a warm bed using lotion to make your hands glide smoothly, massages your body all over.


 Sex toys, Aphrodisiacs

  • People have differing attitudes towards sex toys and games. But most can find sex aids that they feel comfortable with.
  • Aphrodisiacs- asparagus, oysters, champagne, and chocolates.


 Realistic approach

  • Change always takes a while but practice makes perfect.

  • If you have recently given birth then your partner may be more interested in rekindling your sex life before you feel ready and comfort. 

  • Sit and talk to your partner about your interests. Explain him you need a little time to get used to being intimate again before feeling the desire for intercourse.

 Reach for lubricants

It’s not me it’s him

  • Don’t be surprised or get panic, if you partner has erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation or tight vaginal muscles and thighs.
  • However the problem can be remedied and treated. Reassurance and confidence will boost the sexual life.


 Sleep and diet

  • Instead of falling into bed exhausted and tired at midnight, dedicate time for the sex by getting under the sheets together earlier.

  • Don’t have sex when you are tired.  

  • Adequate sleep of 7-8 hrs per day will help you in this.

  • Diet rich in green leafy vegetables and fresh fruits keep the health in good state including the sexual health.