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Suggest Treatment For Discomfort During Foreskin Retraction
Question: hi, i am 31 years old, married 6 months back, me and wife enjoy being close, but we never had penetration sex. i feel a little uncomfortable/allergic to pull back my outer skin on during the intercourse. i am uncomfortable trying condoms as well. i guess this is mostly my fear, but i am not sure, how do i over come my fear? i ejaculate by rubbing the genitals during the foreplay or just putting the penis near Vagina without actually inserting it..i want her to be pregnant. how do i go ahead?
Brief Answer:
having sex is a normal physiology; relax and motivate yourself
Detailed Answer:
Hi,
Thank you for posting your query in healthcaremagic.com
This is Dr. Swarnava dattagupta answering your query.
I have gone through your query and understand your concern.
First thing i need to ask you is whether you have problem pulling back your foreskin or not. People having phimosis have such problem and they tend to avoid penetration in fear of pain or inability to fully retract skin and penetrate.
If you have such a problem, visit a doctor.
If you do not have any such problem, all you need is to motivate yourself and move along. You need to remember that having sex is a normal phenomenon and if you want your wife to get pregnant, you need to have sex. Spend more quality time with your wife. Also, you are newly married and if you are not properly into such activities, it might later lead to marital disharmony.
Retraction of foreskin is needed to penetrate vagina. Hence, let go of all inhibitions and give it a try. Once you get out of your fear, you wont have further problem. You can seek your wife's help too for this. Also, psychologists suggest to see adult films sometimes if needed. If it still does not turn out, you might have to see a psychiatrist or a psychologist and get counselled properly.
Hope i have answered your question.
If you have any further questions i will be happy to help.
Regards
having sex is a normal physiology; relax and motivate yourself
Detailed Answer:
Hi,
Thank you for posting your query in healthcaremagic.com
This is Dr. Swarnava dattagupta answering your query.
I have gone through your query and understand your concern.
First thing i need to ask you is whether you have problem pulling back your foreskin or not. People having phimosis have such problem and they tend to avoid penetration in fear of pain or inability to fully retract skin and penetrate.
If you have such a problem, visit a doctor.
If you do not have any such problem, all you need is to motivate yourself and move along. You need to remember that having sex is a normal phenomenon and if you want your wife to get pregnant, you need to have sex. Spend more quality time with your wife. Also, you are newly married and if you are not properly into such activities, it might later lead to marital disharmony.
Retraction of foreskin is needed to penetrate vagina. Hence, let go of all inhibitions and give it a try. Once you get out of your fear, you wont have further problem. You can seek your wife's help too for this. Also, psychologists suggest to see adult films sometimes if needed. If it still does not turn out, you might have to see a psychiatrist or a psychologist and get counselled properly.
Hope i have answered your question.
If you have any further questions i will be happy to help.
Regards
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Raju A.T
Hi Dr.,
Thank you for the Answer. i can pull my skin only to certain extent. i cannot roll down completely like a condom. i can role down to say around a few centimeters.After that, the tip of penis does not permit to beyond that.it looks like it is stitched at the corner.This being very sensitive, i feel little conscious and some uncomfortable feeling as i touch the penis inside the outer layer.Shoudl i see a doctor.? If yes, which specialist should i see? ( General Physician, Internal Medicine/ Surgery or any sexologist or Infertility Center?)
Thank you for the Answer. i can pull my skin only to certain extent. i cannot roll down completely like a condom. i can role down to say around a few centimeters.After that, the tip of penis does not permit to beyond that.it looks like it is stitched at the corner.This being very sensitive, i feel little conscious and some uncomfortable feeling as i touch the penis inside the outer layer.Shoudl i see a doctor.? If yes, which specialist should i see? ( General Physician, Internal Medicine/ Surgery or any sexologist or Infertility Center?)
Brief Answer:
follow as advised
Detailed Answer:
Hello again.
It seems like a case of partial phimosis. Generally you should be able to retract it till your glans penis but if you cannot, you might need specific treatment.
It would be helpful if you can post a picture of it so that I can tell you further.
You should see a doctor if it is a case of phimosis as it can hamper your married life. A general surgeon should be the right person. Steroid creams might be useful in minor cases, otherwise circumcision should be curable.
Regards.
follow as advised
Detailed Answer:
Hello again.
It seems like a case of partial phimosis. Generally you should be able to retract it till your glans penis but if you cannot, you might need specific treatment.
It would be helpful if you can post a picture of it so that I can tell you further.
You should see a doctor if it is a case of phimosis as it can hamper your married life. A general surgeon should be the right person. Steroid creams might be useful in minor cases, otherwise circumcision should be curable.
Regards.
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Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Neel Kudchadkar
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