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Question: I lost my son to drugs Apr 2. I am seeing a grief cousellor. Which is helping i think? I am dealing with guilt etc. But the counselling has showm me i am not going crazy. Dr. I understand nowngrief is a process for life. However i get really pissed when people or professionals put time lines on this. Eg: "in 3 months you will realize he is gone". " the 2 year is the worst... Etc. Am in the wrong direction thinking this?
Brief Answer:
Timeline is just to help you.. you are not in wrong direction
Detailed Answer:
Hello,
Thanks for using healthcare magic as your health partner.
I am sorry to know that you are going through grief process.
Although I feel there is nothing wrong to your thinking but there is one point which need to be considered. The point is that everyone around you (particularly health counsellor) is hoping to see you well and they want to make it as perfect as possible in minimum possible time.
As we know over a time we process the grief and the time line is just mentioned to help you to come over the grief.
Having said this I feel it will be appropriate if you can communicate your feelings to your counsellor. This feedback will allow him to develop individual centered approach and I think that will be more suitable for you.
I hope this helps you.
If you have more questions feel free to write back to me.
Thanks and regards.
Timeline is just to help you.. you are not in wrong direction
Detailed Answer:
Hello,
Thanks for using healthcare magic as your health partner.
I am sorry to know that you are going through grief process.
Although I feel there is nothing wrong to your thinking but there is one point which need to be considered. The point is that everyone around you (particularly health counsellor) is hoping to see you well and they want to make it as perfect as possible in minimum possible time.
As we know over a time we process the grief and the time line is just mentioned to help you to come over the grief.
Having said this I feel it will be appropriate if you can communicate your feelings to your counsellor. This feedback will allow him to develop individual centered approach and I think that will be more suitable for you.
I hope this helps you.
If you have more questions feel free to write back to me.
Thanks and regards.
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
Thank you. I am 54 year ild male by the way. Today was one of the days where i curl up. I dont like doing this doctor, as the only thing i would not feel guilty about is getting out playing golf again as i know my son would want that. However today i just was wore out. I am doing things ok in seeking hepp to deal with Brads death. But i cant give
Myself the kick i need to move. I am smoking like a chimmey . I take melation to drink and have valium from when it happend. Today i took one?
Myself the kick i need to move. I am smoking like a chimmey . I take melation to drink and have valium from when it happend. Today i took one?
Brief Answer:
Keep doing things which you like except smoking
Detailed Answer:
Hello,
Thanks for reverting back to me.
Before moving to anything else I will request you to stop smoking as far as possible. I must remind you that I am not asking it for health benefit which you already know but to help you go through the grieving process. I hope you are aware that smoking generates oxidative stress in body and the same stress results in more emotional and physical stress and hence symptoms. The stoppage of smoking will help you to manage the ongoing emotions in better way. To be XXXXXXX smoking worsens the grieving process and prolongs it beyond imagination.
Now regarding the activity I like to advice you to one thing if possible. Start a campaign against drugs on this international dead diction day. This will help you to see the positive aspect of your energy. I understand that it is not so easy but this soothes the mind to a great extent.
Third Having physical activity of any kind will help you in this difficult time. I am glad to know that you love playing golf. This in addition to having physical activity will allow to interact with people from different walk of life and generate positive energy.
I hope this helps you further.
Thanks and regards.
Keep doing things which you like except smoking
Detailed Answer:
Hello,
Thanks for reverting back to me.
Before moving to anything else I will request you to stop smoking as far as possible. I must remind you that I am not asking it for health benefit which you already know but to help you go through the grieving process. I hope you are aware that smoking generates oxidative stress in body and the same stress results in more emotional and physical stress and hence symptoms. The stoppage of smoking will help you to manage the ongoing emotions in better way. To be XXXXXXX smoking worsens the grieving process and prolongs it beyond imagination.
Now regarding the activity I like to advice you to one thing if possible. Start a campaign against drugs on this international dead diction day. This will help you to see the positive aspect of your energy. I understand that it is not so easy but this soothes the mind to a great extent.
Third Having physical activity of any kind will help you in this difficult time. I am glad to know that you love playing golf. This in addition to having physical activity will allow to interact with people from different walk of life and generate positive energy.
I hope this helps you further.
Thanks and regards.
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Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
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